Islam: An adoptive father can forcibly marry his beautiful, minor, adopted Daughter

Summary:

In Islam, these two evils were already present:

1. The marriage of a young minor girl.
2. The permissibility of marrying adopted children.

Later, some companions combined these two evils and took them to the extreme by starting to forcibly marry their adopted minor orphan daughters for the sake of their beauty and wealth.

And Muhammad (and his Allah) could not stop these companions from this extreme evil because they had already laid its foundation themselves.

At most, in the Quran, Muhammad/Allah gave the instruction that an adoptive father, when marrying his young, minor, orphaned, adopted daughter, should pay her the dowry as is customary. And if he fears that he cannot pay the dowry as is customary (as given to other women), then he should marry two, three, or four other women instead.

Thus, from the very beginning, Islam turned the adopted daughter into a sexual object in the eyes of the Muslim father. Whenever lust overcomes him, he can immediately take her into his possession through an Islamic marriage, kiss her, remove her clothes, and derive sexual pleasure from her body (these are the words of Islamic fatwas).

It should be noted that a Muslim father does not need the permission of such a young adopted daughter to marry her, nor does he need the law’s permission. Rather, this young girl is entirely at the mercy of the Muslim father.

Details:

Quran 4:3:
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls [while marrying them i.e. not to give them their suitable DOWRY, or to intend to use their properties and wealth unjustly], then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four ...

Why Muhammad was forced to claim the revelation of this verse? The following tradition of ‘Aisha makes it clear (and also the words that we wrote above in the square brackets):

Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5064: 
('Urwa narrated from ‘Aisha that she said about this verse 4:3) "O my nephew! (This Verse has been revealed in connection with) an orphan girl under the guardianship of her guardian who is attracted by her wealth and beauty and intends to marry her with a Mahr (i.e. money for dowry) less than what other women of her standard deserve. So they (such guardians) have been forbidden to marry them unless they do justice to them and give them their full Mahr (i.e. Dowry).

And it is also evident from the following Quranic Verse:

Quran 4:127:

وَيَسْتَفْتُونَكَ فِي النِّسَاءِ قُلِ اللّهُ يُفْتِيكُمْ فِيهِنَّ وَمَا يُتْلَى عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ فِي يَتَامَى النِّسَاءِ الَّاتِي لاَ تُؤْتُونَهُنَّ مَا كُتِبَ لَهُنَّ وَتَرْغَبُونَ أَن تَنكِحُوهُنَّ وَالْمُسْتَضْعَفِينَ مِنَ الْوِلْدَانِ وَأَن تَقُومُواْ لِلْيَتَامَى بِالْقِسْطِ وَمَا تَفْعَلُواْ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَإِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ بِهِ عَلِيمًا

You also read them (the guardians) in the Book concerning (minor) orphaned girls (in your charge) to whom you deny their ordained rights and yet wish to take them in marriage, as well as in respect of helpless children, that you should be just in the matter of orphans." The good you do is known to God.

Ibn Kathir wrote under the commentary of this versre 4:127 (link):

والمقصود أن الرجل إذا كان في حجره يتيمة يحل له تزويجها، فتارة يرغب في أن يتزوجها، فأمره الله أن يمهرها أسوة أمثالها من النساء، فإن لم يفعل، فليعدل إلى غيرها من النساء، فقد وسع الله عز وجل.

The intended meaning is that if a man has an orphan girl under his guardianship, it is permissible for him to marry her. Sometimes, he may desire to marry her, and Allah has commanded him to give her a dowry (Mahr) equivalent to that of other women of her status. If he does not do so, then he should turn to other women, as Allah has made alternatives available.

And the orphan girl, in the above tradition, is a small orphan girl who has not yet reached puberty. It is due to the reason that:

• Firstly, after becoming an adult, the guardian cannot compel her to marry him without her consent. 
• Secondly, after becoming an adult, the guardian cannot marry her by giving her less than a standard dowry (i.e. Haq Mehr). 
• Thirdly, after becoming an adult, she will get full control of her money and property too, and thus the guardian cannot take control of her property any more. 
• Fourthly, after becoming an adult, she is no more considered an orphan. 

The largest Islamic website IslamQA writes (link):

This verse (i.e. Quran 4:3) proves it’s allowed (for a foster father) to marry an orphan. And an orphan cannot be an adult. It’s reported in Sahih Bukhari Hadith no. 2494: “Narrated Urwah that he asked `Aisha regarding the Verse: 'If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, marry (other) women of your choice.' (4.3) `Aisha said, "It is about an orphan girl under the custody of her guardian who being attracted by her wealth and beauty wants to marry her with Mahr less than other women of her status. So such guardians were forbidden to marry them unless they treat them justly by giving them their full Mahr. ”

Ibn Hajar (d.1449 AD) commented on this Hadith saying: “This shows it’s allowed (for a foster father) to marry orphans who haven’t reached puberty. Because after puberty they can’t be called orphans.”

The incident of the marriage of Muhammad with the ex-wife of his adopted son was later used by one greedy Sahabi (companion of Muhammad) who got a lust for her minor adopted daughter due to her beauty and her wealth, and he took her into her Nikah by force. (Note: No foster mother, and no Islamic court, is able to stop the Muslim foster father to marry his minor adopted daughter). 

Nevertheless, it seems that the Arab Society (which Islam and Muslims blame to be from the time of Ignorance) protested against it, as they had already protested in the case of Muhammad when he first wished to marry his daughter-in-law. Moreover, that greedy companion also wished to loot that little orphan girl by giving less money as dowry, and secondly, to take complete control of her wealth as her husband.

Nevertheless, no one was able to stop that companion directly, as Muhammad had already set complete precedence himself for this before, by committing two actions:

1. Firstly, Muhammad did Nikah with 6 years old minor ‘Aisha, and her father Abu Bakr didn’t need any consent from little ‘Aisha.
2. Secondly, Muhammad had destroyed the bond between the adopted children and the foster parents and had married his own daughter-in-law.

Therefore, despite the protest, Muhammad didn’t stop him or punish him from taking the minor adopted daughter into his Nikah, but in order to avoid criticism, he only asked him to pay the full money for the dowry, and he also tried to lure his companion by inviting him to marry 2 or 3 or 4 of others women, who pleased him, but to leave the orphan girl apart if he fears to not to do justice with her wealth (i.e. due to money for a dowry, or due to taking full control over her wealth). Nevertheless, this was also only a “recommendation” and if a greedy Muslim foster father still wishes to marry the minor adopted daughter in order to take full control over her wealth, then NO Islamic Court could stop him from doing it. 

Alas!

Islam has stripped the poor orphan girl of her entire "family." Now, in Muslim households, the orphan girl is not only a stranger (na-mahram) to her father but also to her brothers. Now, it’s not just her adoptive father who looks at her with lustful eyes, but even her brothers in the household have been looking at her with lustful eyes from the very beginning (meaning they never see her as a daughter or sister, but rather, from the start, as a sexual object). In simple words, Islam has taken away the right of poor orphan children to have a family.

The largest Islamic website islamweb.net gave this fatwa (link 1, 2, 3, 4):

فإنه لا حرج في تقبيل الزوجة ‌الصغيرة بشهوة ‌والمفاخذة ونحو ذلك ولو كانت لا تطيق الجماع، وقد بين العلماء رحمهم الله تعالى أن الأصل جواز استمتاع الرجل بزوجته كيف شاء إذا لم يكن ضرر، وذكروا في ذلك استمناءه بيدها ومداعبتها وتقبيلها وغير ذلك

There’s no issue in the sexual kissing, thighing..etc of a minor wife, even if she can't yet endure sexual intercourse. Scholars have stated that the default ruling is that a man can enjoy his wife however he wants as long as no harm is caused. The examples they mentioned for this include masturbating with her hand, fondling, kissing, etc.

Reference:

فتاوى الشبكة الإسلامية، المكتبة الشاملة، ج3 ص8445

The Fatawa of the Islamic web, archived by Al-Maktabah Al-Shamilah library in 2009, vol.3 p.8445

Natural Bond between parents and adopted children

A child does not care who gave birth to him, but he will go towards the one who fosters him, who loves him, and who takes care of him. 

Remember, when a woman or a man fosters a child, then a natural bond is created between them. In the whole world, in each and every nation, all the modern psychiatrists accept this natural bond, except Islam. 

The “bond of fostering” is stronger than the “bond of blood”.

This thing exists even among animals too. If you keep the eggs of duck under the hen, then the ducklings will consider that hen to be their mother and follow her while she takes care of them. Even if a cat takes care of ducklings, then they will consider that cat to be their mother. 

The status of the one who fosters the child is HIGHER than the status of the one who gave birth to the child.

Islamic Perspective: The brother-in-law poses the greatest threat of illicit relations with his brother’s wife

In Islamic teachings, a brother-in-law—someone who has grown up alongside his brother and shared a lifetime together—is considered the most likely person to engage in forbidden intimacy with his brother’s wife.

Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5232 & Sahih Muslim, Hadith2172a: 
Uqba b. `Amir reported Allah's Messenger as saying: Beware of getting into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion). A person from the Ansar said: Allah's Messenger, what about husband's brother, whereupon he said: Husband's brother is like death (i.e. he will be ahead of all others in indulging in fornication with her sister-in-law).

Human Reasoning: Common sense and our innate sense of humanity suggest otherwise. A man who has grown up with his brother, sharing a bond of love and trust, would naturally feel compelled to safeguard his brother’s honour and protect his wife—more so than any outsider, even a stranger or a slave. Yet, Islam instructs a man to bar his own brother from living in the same house as his wife, effectively forcing him to expel his sibling to avoid this supposed danger.

At the same time, Islamic rules permit an adoptive father and his sons—who are also non-mahram to the adopted daughter—to reside under the same roof as her. Doesn’t this reveal a contradiction? If the brother-in-law is deemed such a threat, how can the non-mahram adoptive father and his sons not be seen as equally, if not more, dangerous to the vulnerable orphan girl in their care?

Moreover, your religion claims that if an unrelated man and woman are alone in a house, it’s a sin, a crime, and Satan himself barges in as the third wheel, stirring trouble.

Jami’ Tirmidhi, 2165:

The Messenger of Allah said: "No man should be alone with a woman, for the third one among them is Satan."

So, will you now say the same thing about an adopted daughter? If she ever finds herself alone in the house with her adoptive father (or brother), does the third one among them become Satan?

And what about travel? Which man can she trust as her “safe” companion for travel—someone she’s allowed to be alone with without your rules branding it forbidden, sin and crime? 

These towering problems don’t just happen—they’re born from your faith’s twisted, unnatural rules. By treating an adopted orphan girl like a sexual prize instead of a daughter, your religion has built this mess from the ground up.