Muslim preachers blame the non-religious western society and claim:
Sexual intercourse is something that should be kept treasured and specific to a loved one. But West glorifies sexual intercourse before marriage in the name of finding 'suitable partner', and it makes sex easier and without any punishment, which is a reason why cheating and divorces are so common in today's western society. Sex is not something to be dished out so both parties feel a hit of dopamine and leave each other. It demoralises the whole act making it more meaningless the more you enact with different partners. While Islam gives a value to sex, and makes it a mean of love between two parties i.e. husband and wife.
Answer:
Islam does not give value to sex, but the correct statement is: Islam gives value to MEN only.
Islam allowed only men to marry 4 women and have sex with them.
Thus, according to the own standards of Muslim preachers, dishing out sex with 4 women does not fit in the definition of LOVE between Two Parties.
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The disease of Islam goes even further.
A Muslim man is not only allowed to have 4 wives but he is also allowed to do sex with dozens of slave women too.
So, how do sex with 4 different wives and dozens of slave women not constitute dishing out the sex? And how does it fit in the definition of love between Two Parties?
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The disease of Islam goes even further.
Muslim men are practically RAPING the slave/prisoner women against their consent/will.
There is a huge difference between sex and rape.
Does raping the slave/prisoner women ever make a Muslim man a better person, who is then still capable of loving and taking care of any other woman?
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The disease of Islam goes even further.
Islam not only allowed men to have sex with slave women, but it also allowed them to have "Temporary sexual Relationships" with the slave women.
What does this "Temporary sexual Relationship" mean?
Have you heard of Shia Muta and Temporary sexual relationships?
It is the same in Sunni Islam where an owner can rape a slave woman in a Temporary sexual relationship.
Allah made it Halal for the Muslim owner that after fulfilling his Lust in a Shia Mut'a type "Temporary Sexual Relationship), if he got bored, then he could hand her over to one of his brothers (or even to any of his slaves). And after all of his brothers (/or slaves) had raped her one by one and fulfilled their lust and got bored, then she could be sold to the 2nd master, who again raped her, and then sold her to the 3rd master .... and thus, this cycle of rape continued for the poor slave-girl.
0 Abu Sa'id al-Khadri said: We went out with Allah's Messenger on the expedition to the Bi'l-Mustaliq and took captive some excellent Arab women; and we desired (to have sex with) them, for we were suffering from the absence of our wives, (but at the same time) we also desired good ransom money for them by selling them). So we decided to have sexual intercourse with them but by observing 'azl (i.e. withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception so that they don’t become pregnant). But then we said: We are doing an act whereas Allah's Messenger is amongst us; why not ask him? So we asked Allah's Messenger, and he said: (Yes, it is allowed, but) it does not matter if you do it or not, while if any soul has to be born up to the Day of Resurrection, then it will be born.
The slave trade was made Halal Allah, where all such prisoner women were sold after they had already been raped in temporary sexual relationships by their former Muslim owners.
But Islam claims such owners (men) are still able to love their wife/wives despite raping dozens of slave women in a temporary sexual relationship.
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And the disease of Islam goes even further.
The evil of 'Temporary Sexual Relationship' led to another evil, where the swapping of slave girls also became Halal Allah. If a Muslim man got a lust for a slave girl of another person, he can simply offer that other man to swap their slave girls, and rape them.
Tafsir-e-Mazhari is a commentary of the Quran, which is taught in every Hanafi school. It is written under the commentary of verse 33:52 (Link):
Ibn Zayd said about this verse {وَلَآ أَن تَبَدَّلَ بِهِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَٰجٍ nor to exchange your present wives for other women (Verse 33:52)} that people used to swap their wives during the era of ignorance ... upon that Allah revealed this verse and the swapping of wives is thus not allowed. But the slave women are not included in it, and you can swapp them and there is no issue in it.
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And the disease of Islam goes even further.
Allah/Muhammad allowed the master to snatch away the slave wife of his slave man, and to start raping her. And after he has fulfilled his lust and has gotten bored, then he can return that slave wife back to his slave man.
Sahih Bukhari, Book of Marriage (link):
وَقَالَ أَنَسٌ: {وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ} ذَوَاتُ الأَزْوَاجِ الْحَرَائِرُ حَرَامٌ إِلاَّ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ لاَ يَرَى بَأْسًا أَنْ يَنْزِعَ الرَّجُلُ جَارِيَتَهُ مِنْ عَبْدِهِ.
Companion Anas Ibn Malik said: The meaning of the verse (وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ Surah Nisa) is this that if a slave girl of any person is in the marriage of his slave man, then owner could take that woman back for himself (to have sex with her) from his slave man.
Does raping the slave wife of his slave man ever make that Muslim Master a better person, who is then still capable of loving and taking care of any other woman?
Suitable partner vs GAMBLE:
If a Muslim woman is married to a Muslim man who is not compatible with her, then her whole life is ruined. Every Muslim girl is compelled to play this GAMBLE.
According to the Ahadith of the Prophet, it is enough for a man and woman to see each other ONCE before marriage. She has no chance to know about him if he is suitable and mentally compatible with her. Even if she gets a chance to talk with the man once or twice before the marriage, still it is not enough. It is very easy for evil men to hide their original evilness during these one or two meetings.
Therefore, this system of arranged marriages in Islam is badly deficient and always a gamble for every Muslim girl.
The so-called STABILITY of the family system in Islamic society is based only upon the EXPLOITATION of women:
If you are a man, then Islam indeed gives you a right to divorce your wife who makes trouble for you.
But unfortunately, as a woman (wife), Islam again made your life miserable while you have no chance to get rid of your non-compatible husband, even if he becomes abusive towards you and beat you brutally even with bruises.
You will probably say that she has the right to take Khu'l خلع in order to separate herself.
But it is a big misunderstanding. In real Islamic Sharia, Khu'l is not the right of a woman, but of a husband. In this real Islamic Khu'l, the wife has to offer the husband the Haq Mahr (or more) money. If the husband accepts this offer and takes that money and divorces her, then she will get her freedom. But if the husband denies this offer, then no Islamic Court or Judge can compel the husband to divorce her, and she will be compelled to stay with such an abusive husband for the whole of her life.
Please read this article in order to understand the real Khu'l ruling in Islamic Sharia:
Are you able to see the RISK/Gamble of the whole life of a Muslim girl in an Islamic system?
Are you able to see how a woman is EXPLOITED to stay with her husband despite non-compatibility, despite NO LOVE, despite him being abusive? The whole Islamic society pressurizes her not to take a divorce. In most cases, she is unable to support herself alone. It is difficult for her to go out in men's society and do any job. And the worst, in case if she remarries, then Islam snatches away all the children from her.
Yes, you have read it correctly, if she remarries, then Islamic Sharia snatches away all the children from her, while her duty is to please her 2nd husband sexually whenever he wishes, and Islamic Sharia considers that her children from her earlier husband are a hindrance in providing sexual services to her 2nd husband. Please read this article: Strange Islam: If a divorced woman remarries, then she will lose the custody of her children
Please don't get confused by the present-day laws of Islamic countries, where they went against the original Islamic Sharia and where they allowed women to keep their children even if they remarry.
The Western System may not be perfect, but a perfect system is not possible in this imperfect world
Nevertheless, the western system is still much better than the Islamic system.
We will write a detailed reply about the western system later in the 2nd part.
In short, the increase in the rate of divorce in western countries is basically due to the present situation, and it has nothing to do with being a religious person or not.
For example, Qatar and Kuwait and UAE are religious countries but do you know that their divorce rate has also reached even to 60%. Even in Saudi Arabia, the divorce rate is almost touching 50%. This is even more than many Western countries.
Why?
It is due to multiple reasons. People are rich. Women are also rich, and they can afford to live alone too without the support of men.
Families all over the world (even in non-religious China and Japan) stayed together in the older times, while they needed each other in order to survive.
But today, people don't need families to survive. This is the main cause the family system is not so strong today and the rate of divorce has gone higher even in Muslim countries.