Women
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Men
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Divorce
Hardships that women and men have to endure
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- Divorce: A husband has full right to divorce, but a woman doesn't.
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- The process of 3 Divorces: The process of 3 Talaqs is again there to punish a woman in the name of reconciliation. Only a woman suffers under it where she is forced to stay in the husband's house as a captive for 3 menstrual cycles (i.e. about 3 months). He is allowed to have sex with other wives and dozens of slave girls, but the poor woman is forced to have no sex and love during this period of 3 Talaqs.
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- Khul’: Only men have the right to divorce. If a woman wants to have a divorce, then she has to offer RANSOM money to her husband. If he accepts the offer and divorces her, then she gets her freedom. But if the husband rejects the offer, then no Islamic court can compel him to divorce her and she will not get her freedom. She is compelled to stay with her husband, even if he is abusive, or even if she dislikes him.
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- Faskh (i.e. Dissolution of Marriage): A woman can obtain a divorce from an Islamic court ONLY in the following cases, which cause her to endure hardships for many years before getting relief:
(i) that the whereabouts of the husband have not been known for a period of four years;
(ii) that the husband has neglected or has failed to provide for her maintenance for a period of two years;
(iii) that the husband has been sentenced to imprisonment for a period of seven years or upwards;
(iv) that the husband has failed to perform, without reasonable cause his marital obligations for a period of three years; continues to be so:
(v) that the husband has been insane for a period of two years or is suffering from leprosy or a virulent venereal disease;
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- Liaan: A Husband Can Accuse His Wife of Adultery Without Any 4 Witnesses, but if a Wife Accuses Her Husband of Adultery (or Rape) and She Does Not Produce 4 Eyewitnesses, Then She Will Be Lashed 80 Times. [Double Standards of Islam].
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- ‘Iddah (waiting period): Only women have to suffer the hardships of 'Iddah. For example, only a wife has to mourn the death of her husband for 4 months and 10 days and cannot marry, while a husband is not required to mourn a single day if the wife dies, and he can enjoy other wives and dozens of slave women the same night.
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- A woman loses custody of all her children if she remarries: If a divorced woman remarries, then she will lose CUSTODY of all of her Children. The reason given by Islamic scholars is that she cannot provide proper sexual services to her 2nd husband properly in the presence of children from her first husband. Unbelievable.
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- Halala (Tahleel Marriage): Even if the husband is at fault for giving the divorce, but still only the poor woman has to suffer and get raped by another man before going back to her first husband. Muslim women are practically compelled to agree to go through this sexual abuse because it is their only chance to stay with their children (i.e. to return to their first husband). Otherwise, if they marry another person then they will lose custody of all of their children.
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- Ila (الإيلاء): In Talaq, a woman gets her freedom and can marry another man. But in Ila (الإيلاء), a man abstains from having any sexual relationship with her wife (as a punishment) for 4 months. Then he can have sex with her, and then again leave her alone for the next 4 months. Ila was essentially a tool wielded by husbands to punish and to manipulate their wives into complying with their demands. Women were treated as mere possessions.
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- Zihar: If a Muslim man, in a fit of anger or unintentionally, compares his wife to his mother or her back to his mother's back, it becomes necessary to separate her, akin to a divorce. Only women suffered badly from it.
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The Hijab
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Hardships that women have to endure:
- Only she has to suffocate herself by wearing the Hijab.
- Only her life becomes dependent on other mahram men, as she cannot go out without a mahram man.
- It is a hindrance to getting an education and practising a job.
- It is a hindrance to her physical health as she cannot go out swimming or jogging or playing sports outside.
Moreover, many Scientific Studies are showing that:
- Hijabi women are suffering from hair loss
- Hijabi women suffering from baldness
- Hijabi women are suffering from receding hairline
- Hijabi women are suffering from fungi, candida, sticky hair, bad odour
- Hijabi women are suffering from scratching, neck and head pain
- Hijabi women are suffering from vitamin D deficiency (especially minor girls who have to start taking the Hijab even at the age of 3)
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Hardships that men have to endure:
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Testimony
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Hardships that women have to endure:
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Women's testimony is ZERO (i.e. absolutely not accepted in Islamic court) in the following serious cases of Hudud
- Adultery
- Rape
- Murder
- Robbery
- Theft
- Hirabah
Women's testimony is also ZERO in cases which are not related to women's affairs like:
- Nikah (marriage)
- Talaq (divorce)
- Raju' [restitution of conjugal rights]
- Parentage
- al-Wakalah
- Wills/Testaments
Women's testimony is only HALF in the following case:
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Hardships that men have to endure:
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Inheritance
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Hardships that women have to endure:
- A daughter will inherit only half of that of the son.
- A sister will inherit only half of that of the brother.
In the case where the deceased has no children but only a wife and a distant male relative (such as a cousin, son, or grandson), the distribution of shares would be as follows (link):
- A wife will get only 25% while the distant male relative will get 75%
- A mother will get only 33% while the distant male relative will get 67.77%
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Hardships that men have to endure:
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Other Issues
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- Wife Beating: Not light but even BRUTAL beating with bruises is completely Halal in Islam in the name of Disciplining her
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- Infertility: An infertile woman is considered to have no worth, should not be married, and could be divorced, while a woman cannot seek divorce from her infertile Muslim husband [Double Standards of Islam]
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Where is the justice/equity?
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- Virginophilia: Islam demands not to marry a widow or divorced woman in the presence of a virgin girl. But the same is not true about widowed or divorced men [Double Standards of Islam]
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- A father can even wed his minor daughter (even if she is breastfed) without her consent. And the husband can drive sexual pleasure by kissing her naked body, making her masturbate him, or rubbing his penis in her thighs (except for generation). Link.
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- If a Foster Father lusts for his "Minor Adopted Daughter" due to her beauty or wealth, then he can forcefully give her into his Nikah. Link.
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Dowry (Mahr) and Maintenance
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Hardships that women have to endure:
Islam allows man to BLACKMAIL women to give up their rights to Dowry and Maintenance Money:
- Man can blackmail women into Misyaar marriage, where he has to give neither Mahr nor Maintenance money to women.
- Even in normal Nikah marriage, again men are fully allowed to blackmail wives to give up their rights to Mahr or Maintenance money by threatening them to divorce them, or by not treating them well. Muhammad himself blackmailed old lady Sawdah to give up her right to nights by threatening her with divorce.
Even if a man agree to give Mahr and maintenance money, still here are the rights that women lose due to dowry and maintenance. Link.
- In Islamic tradition, dowry (mahr) is seen as compensation for the sexual pleasure (tamtee') that a man derives from his wife, and the exclusive access to her body that he enjoys.
- At the same time, he is free to marry multiple wives and engage in temporary sexual relationships with numerous slaves., but she is not allowed to even talk to any other man without the permission of his husband.
- And she has to provide him with sexual services, whenever he demands it, even if she is travelling on the back of a camel and delivering a child (according to Muhammad).
- Thus, Mahr is the payment of those sexual services, which she is obliged to provide to her husband on DEMAND.
And as far as the maintenance is concerned, then again Islam takes away many rights from a woman for this:
- She is prohibited to leave the house without the permission of her husband.
- She is even prohibited from visiting her parents without his permission.
- Her husband gets the right to beat her while he pays he money for maintenance.
- She receives financial support, but only at the cost of surrendering her right to work outside the home and earn her own income. In practice, it is nearly impossible for a woman to find employment without her husband's permission, especially in societies where Islamic norms are strictly enforced.
- If a husband mistreats and tortures his wife, she cannot initiate a divorce proceeding on her own. Even if the husband chooses to divorce her, she often lacks the means to support herself independently. As a result, she may be coerced into remarrying.
- However, if she does choose to remarry, Islam dictates that she will lose custody of her children (Link).
- She has the duty to put perfume and make her beautiful to provide him with sex services on demand.
In simple words:
- Slaves are also fed and maintained.
- Prisoners in the prisons are also fed and maintained.
- And women in Islam are not much different than slaves and prisoners.
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Hardships that men have to endure:
- Only men have to pay Dowry and Maintenance
Islamic preachers boast a lot that Islam has made women QUEENS while it puts all the financial burden of dowry and maintenance upon husbands. Unfortunately, they don't tell the whole truth about how women lose a lot of their rights due to this dowry and maintenance issue.
Moreover, if dowry and maintenance really means making women Queens, then it was the pre-Islamic Arab culture of the time of ignorance, which made them Queens, as they stipulated dowry and maintenance for wives, while Muhammad only copied it from them.
Imbalanced Approach of the Islamic System:
It is not equal to giving rights to women with justice/equity, but the Islamic System is bringing only unnecessary hardships to both men and women due to its 'out of balance approach'.
The system of Islam is totally “Out of Balance”, while:
- All the financial burden is put solely upon the husband.
- It does not matter if he is poor, if he becomes ill, or even if he loses his job. This is again a gamble as no one knows if he will become ill or not, or lose his job or not. In all these cases, still it is only the husband, who has to bear the financial burden.
Compared to Islam, the Western system is totally in Balance. If a wife is rich, or she has a stable good earning job, and if she is healthy, then she has to share equal financial responsibilities, so that she becomes a support for her poor husband.
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